There’s no doubt th
at an increasing number of people are becoming conscious of a very different kind of awareness and reality unfolding in the world these days. Some put it down to the 2012 ‘shift’ but it could be that all of the massive changes and uncertainty we are living through are enabling some of us to embrace more meaningful – even spiritual lifestyles. More people are now looking inwards and are beginning to perceive themselves as part of the solution, part of a much bigger picture. It looks almost as if we are creating a ‘Conscious Revolution’.
However, this is also highlighting a massive issue for many people. As a healer / practitioner I am talking to and working with dozens of people from what we might call the ‘conscious community’ who are feeling unhappy, trapped, and in some cases desperate.
These are people who have embarked on ‘the journey’, become empowered enough to really feel the difference, and realise that there is no turning back. Their lifestyle, worldview, authenticity, spirituality – call it whatever you want, will never go back to what it was, they may even be approaching some kind of personal transformation or enlightenment. When members of our conscious community’ come together at the ever increasing array of events, gatherings and ceremonies – even some of the group pages on social network sites, the feeling of ‘oneness’ and collective ecstasy is palpable; what an incredible energy, sense of purpose and community to be able to feel and share with a growing movement of lovely like-minded people.
But what if – back at home, your partner, husband or wife dosen’t feel that same energy? What if they are on a different journey and are not comfortable with yours? Worse still, what happens if they perceive your passion and state of ‘enlightenment’ – not to mention your new friends, as a threat to your relationship?
Believe me, this scenario is being played out right now in countless relationships around the world, and it’s causing chaos.
Of course you try to explain, enthuse and bring them round but despite your obvious love, passion and commitment to the relationship, it’s hard – very hard indeed. If you are truly conscious, then you are probably passionate about it, and if this passion is not received or respected by your partner, that just compounds the misery. Sometimes, your partner can even drain your energy and passion making it difficult or impossible to be near them.
A further irony is that your journey has made you a much better person in so many different ways, so you would think your partner would appreciate the change, but usually the reverse is the case as you ‘wern’t the person I married’.
Can you be happily married to a Muggle?
The straight and honest answer is probably not, in most cases. Why? Because your’e moving on – it’s a journey don’t forget and youv’e already got a head start on your partner. Much as you may love them, that kick inside is just too strong this time around, and we all know that we must always follow our hearts and our intuition.
Another pressure can be that you so enjoy the company of the like-spirited people in your conscious community, that after the latest spat with your partner you can find yourself dreaming what it could be like to be in a relationship with one of your soulmates – how harmonious and powerful would that be!
Maybe the answer is to stop dreaming and allow it to happen . . .
( Should I start up a dating site called ‘Conscious Companions’? )
